The good news is I didn’t fall off my horse. And I’m sure I learned a lot and will eventually be grateful for all the chances at relaxing and giving when I didn’t want to.

WAIT!
Isn’t that how I started yesterday’s blog? yep. I’m a glutton for punishment I guess. Today I spent the required bur and mud removal time, then headed back to Sara’s. This time I brought Apache. I was hoping things would go better going over obstacles with some friend horses around.

I swear to you that I was in a good mood and happy with my old boy. After all, he successfully ate his whole pill and let me remove all the burs. We had a nice walk over there, but his arrival disturbed the foal, which disturbed Aragorn in his dressage. Still, all good.
But when I mounted and started showing him the obstacles, he did the same thing he always does and started hopping and going sideways the minute he got near the pens. Honestly, I’d forgotten this would be an issue, so I wasn’t tensing up. Where are these invisible demons he senses?

After two one-rein stops and a lot of conscious relaxing and not tightening the reins, I was able to successfully do a slalom, go over a bridge, and walk over a jump. He even sort of did a turn in a box thing.

But, I couldn’t reach the gate to unlatch it when we got to it, he acted like he’d never seen a mailbox, and he refused to approach a jug on a barrel. He’s done those things many times.
So I gave up on the virtual show and just tried to end on a good note. I took him to Sara’s round pen, you know, the one I’ve worked with him in for years. He did eventually settle down as we did some patterns in there. But, that was it.

I let him graze in the pen while other horses tried to do their show filming. Aragorn didn’t like the bridge after a non-stick matt was put down. Later, after I dragged my ass home, he did fine.

And Cole, who came with our training friend Tracee, surprised everyone by cantering away and doing a great job. All that cheered me up.

And Apache was a good guy all the way home. Hmm.
I keep reading “helpful” articles saying if your horse behaves poorly, it’s something you did. I’m inclined to agree, since both my horses act so weird over there, it may well be me. I do get a little embarrassed that my horses are flailing around and not listening to me. But I’m doing my best to calmly regroup and try again.

I’ll keep trying. I’m disappointed, but we keep going.

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Actually, small changes in familiar territory are red flags for horses who are at the most risk from predators in the wild in areas they revisit…like water holes. Our human brains say that combining familiar objects on home turf with familiar places should be fine. Horse brains say that familiar objects showing up in different places in areas they revisit are predators that are going to eat them alive. Developing a reliable conversation where your horse knows that they can ask: Is that thing going to eat me alive? and you can say ‘Eh…probably not’ and then everything works out fine is the key.
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I’ll keep working on that. I hate that they don’t have confidence in me, but that’s for me to work on. Thanks so much for your helpful feedback!
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Yes, finding out how your horses wants to communicate about scary stuff takes time and commitment. Yours might feel like he has to do the horse equivalent of shouting to get human’s attention… becoming aware of the slightest ear tilt or twitchy movement and responding with ‘ there there, everything is fine’ might help. If Apache likes treats, snatching a bite to eat is one way free-roaming horses let each other know that the alarm is over. So a pat on the neck, a quiet voice and a treat as soon as you feel ANY tension might let your guy know he doesn’t have to throw a fit to get you to notice SOMETHING IS DIFFERENT!!! from his horsey view…
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That sounds like what we are doing. My trainer came to my house this morning and we worked on all the stuff you mentioned as well as helping him focus on my communication. Lots of improvement already.
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