Hey, Suna, what subject might that be, I hear the chorus asking. Well, that subject is sort of two things, but both ways of thinking about the world that sadden me, because they eliminate so much potential people AND they are self perpetuating: the poverty mindset and entitlement.
My friend Mandi has loads of personal experience in this area, and I’m happy to let her speak. She spent much of her life in a “poverty mindset” when it came to finances, especially, and she’s seen what people who feel they are entitled to a good living just because they exist. Check out these three posts she wrote over where she blogs, our Hermit Haus Redevelopment site:
In her first post, Mandi shared this:
As I have pointed out before, I am not super wealthy person. I am overcoming the poverty mindset myself. I read a great article, found here that states, “38% of American households making $40,000-$100,000 per year could not cover $400 for an emergency without going into debt.”Hermit Haus Redevelopment blog, December 5, 2020
Scary, huh? She doesn’t want to be one of those people anymore.
It’s been fun watching Mandi’s journey of figuring out how she can raise her credit score, get out of debt, and take care of her family. I know it hasn’t been easy for her, but she has the guts to make the effort to figure out other ways to live life than from paycheck to paycheck, or gas tank to gas tank. She has learned the hard way that continually borrowing, letting vehicles get reposessed, and continually remaining behind on all bills is a life that leads to a downward spiral, and a HARD one to get out of.
As I’ve watched Mandi, I’ve seen how she’s been taken advantage of or treated unfairly. It has to be tempting to just give up and say, “Hey, it’s not MY fault I haven’t got any money. People keep taking what little I have.” Mandi doesn’t do that. She learns from the experience, picks herself up, and tries again (just like my parents did).
Here’s my hope
Those of us who have come out of families who didn’t have much, but figured out ways to thrive can share that information. We can encourage friends and families who want to make a better life for themselves, rather than putting them down. We can learn how some kinds of assistance CAN make a difference.
I’d written a whole lot more on this topic and deleted it. I honestly don’t think I’m qualified to talk about these things. I may have had parents who struggled, but I didn’t. Sure, I worked hard to get scholarships for my elite education and introduction to how those elites think. But that doesn’t qualify me to tell people who’ve lived their whole lives in poverty with very few options how to live. Nope.
I’ve been privileged to see a couple of my close friends from teenage years do the hard work it takes to succeed. I live with one of them. But I’ve not walked in their shoes. I’ve not been where Mandi and some of my Cameron friends have been or are now.
I’m here for anyone who wants to learn new patterns, but I can see how it’s really hard on others who just get knocked down over and over. I’m not going to make it worse.
I don’t judge these people or look down on them. Life is so hard. Let’s reach out a hand to help, not extend a foot to push away.
How did YOU work to improve your life? What’s blocking you?